Wifey Material Points = Nonexistent
I realize that I tend to be a little too outspoken on these men/women issues especially when it comes to men’s expectations of women. I remember visiting my sister in Aberdeen back in 2010, and we...
View ArticleYour Priorities, My Priorities
As some of you may remember, I wrote an article for Jaguda.com back in the day on my views about moving back to Naija. As expected, a lot of people tensioned my life for stating that I consider America...
View Article30
A few weeks ago, yours truly hit the big ol’ grand age of three zero. For some unknown reason, I have always looked forward to turning 30. In fact, I've always looked upon the 30’s as the period where...
View ArticleWhat's So Special About Your Family Name Anyway?
I not-so recently had the following conversation with one of my male cousins:Cousin (talking about my uncle who recently re-married after his first wife’s death): How is Ikenna’s new wife sef?Me: I...
View ArticleSocial Media: The Oppression Factor
I was recently discussing social media with my friend and told her “Man, social media can be one hella oppressive place”. And this is the truth. It’s like no matter how immune you feel to it all,...
View ArticleThe Superficial Reasons Behind Why You Didn't Get Chose
Ya know sometimes when men reject us women, we go on a self-blaming spree…“Oh, if only I knew how to swing off chandeliers”“Oh, if only I could cook like Lohi O”“Oh, if only had been more expressive...
View ArticleSocial Media: The Oversharing Factor
I am hella late with this my new year's greetings but better late than never my dear people. I just want to say a quick albeit very belated HAPPY NEW YEAR. I had all this gist of how my Holiday season...
View ArticleIn Defense of the Young'uns
I know quite a few women who have been there and done that with younger men and have sworn off them. They say that all the young’uns they encountered turned out to be jerks and so they have washed...
View ArticleThe Splitting Etiquette and other Money-Related Musings
The other day, I hung out with a couple of coworkers. We went to this spot for happy hour, during which 2 of the girls ordered steaks and a couple of the guys ordered plenty plenty drinks including 2...
View ArticleMemo to Single Girls: Go on That Date
I recently befriended this really cool Naija babe at work, and as a fine babe like her is concerned, there’s a good looking African American young man who works in the client’s IT department that is...
View ArticleHow Much Investigative Journalism Do You Do?
These days the concept of "investigative journalism" has gone beyond making verbal inquiries about potential candidates in your dating pool to taking matters right into your very hands and doing the...
View ArticleIs What He Sees Really What He's Gonna Get?
I have a friend who was practically harassed by an ex-boyfriend to confess her “number". She said that the harassment started when she started pulling some tricks inna di bedroom and the guy would be...
View ArticleRich or Poor, Swag or No Swag, a Jerk will Still be a Jerk
First of all, can I just say a very belated happy new year to you all? My happy New Year wishes on this blog are always quite belated…but you know my mentality of “better late than never” which...
View ArticleRandom Yarns on Travel
I recently went on a vacation to Capetown, South Africa, and on my way to the airport to catch my flight, I ran into a 50-something year old lady on my shuttle who was so excited to be traveling. She...
View ArticleSome Married Men and the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Policy
A while ago, I attended a friend’s wedding and ended up sitting beside a fine young man in church. We got to chatting and I found him to be a nice fella. At the reception, we went our separate ways but...
View ArticleBleachers Gonna Bleach
I’ve always wondered why people get so up in arms about bleaching, bleachers, and the whole “chillaligans” (in my Joseline Hernandez voice). Case in point… As long as I’ve been aware of the oh-so...
View ArticleOwn Your Blessings
The other day on Twitter, I was scrolling through my timeline and read a tweet from someone who opined that when people make statements such as “I’m blessed”, it comes off like such people think they...
View ArticleHow to Deal with Life’s Pressures: Cook Them in Your Internal Pressure Cooker
One of the huge complexes that I had when I was a bit younger was the amount of time that I spent in College compared to my peers. To provide context, I got into Community College in September 2001,...
View ArticleFor Petty People Who Do Not Know How To Let Things Go
This one is for us.I’m one of those people who considers herself to be pretty self-aware. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses in equal amounts. I try not to live in denial about who I am and...
View ArticleHow to Meet a Man 101: Slide up in his DMs
I have this male friend who has the best intentions in offering suggestions to get me snatched up and off the dating market. Some of his "award winning" advice that I have gotten in the past included...
View Article2016: My Year in Review
I started out the year in Aberdeen, Scotland. In my usual tradition, I went to church with my sister and enjoyed bringing in the new year with the good Lord Jesus. I don't know if I've mentioned this,...
View ArticlePackaging
My first real crash course in packaging was in 2012. I was in Nigeria that Christmas chilling with a friend and we decided to hit up a new bar that had just opened and was touted to be this cool and...
View ArticleKiss and Don't Tell
When a woman gets into sexual relations with a man. It can go a few ways:A. It will remain strictly between you two (your best girlfriend doesn’t count, hehe) and the man will lock up your business and...
View ArticleNigerian Men and Homophobia
In my experience of interacting of Nigerian men, I've discovered that one common ground that most (read: 100%) of them share is their views on gay men. I've polled both ends of the spectrum and found...
View ArticlePeeking In
Welllllll look who the cat DRAGGED in. It's funny because every time people asked whether I abandoned my blog, my instant response was always "NOPE...I just haven't had anything to say". This is...
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